I have a confession. I’m addicted to TikTok.
The funny dog videos. The news updates. The perspectives from people who don’t look or think like me.
The other night, I came across a coach sharing a brain hack. She said when something scares us but we know it could be good, we should say “I just want to see” instead of building it up into this huge thing.
And I realized I needed to hear that.
The Thing I Don’t Say Enough
I’ve been out on my own for four years now. Helping leaders navigate the messy, uncomfortable parts of leadership. And most days, I still have no idea what I’m doing.
I miss having a playbook. I miss seeing the clear path forward. Most days, I’m making it up as I go.
Every difficult conversation feels like I’m figuring it out in real time. Every team dynamic I’m trying to shift feels like an experiment. Every time I choose to address something uncomfortable instead of avoiding it, I’m not sure it’s the right call.
But I keep doing it anyway.
What I Just Want to See
That TikTok hit me because I’d been putting so much pressure on myself to know the right move. To have the perfect approach. To be certain before I acted. Even though I know (and teach) better!
It reminded me, what if I don’t need certainty? What if I just need enough courage to see what happens next?
I just want to see what happens if I have that hard conversation, even though I don’t know exactly how it’ll go. I just want to see what shifts when I acknowledge the thing everyone’s thinking, even though I’m not sure what comes after that.
The pressure’s off when I frame it that way. I’m not committing to having it all figured out. I’m just curious enough to take the next step.
The Courage You Don’t See
What most people miss about leadership courage is it’s not the big, dramatic moments where you know you’re being brave.
It’s showing up every day when you don’t know if what you’re doing is right. It’s making the call when you can’t see all the angles. It’s moving forward when the path isn’t clear.
Most of leadership happens in that space between not knowing and needing to act anyway.
What I’ve Learned
You don’t need to have it figured out to keep moving. You just need enough courage to see what happens next.
The leaders who wait for certainty never act. The ones who act anyway, even when they’re not sure, are the ones who actually lead.
Maybe that’s where you are too. Not sure of the right move, but ready to see what’s possible.
Even if you’re just winging it like the rest of us.
What’s the thing you’ve been avoiding because you’re not sure how it’ll go?
Maybe it’s time to just see what happens.
